Sounds weird right?
“How can self love be a gift for someone else?” you ask.
Let me explain. From the age of 0 to around 7 your children are laying the foundations of their beliefs. These beliefs will then go on to become that little voice inside the head that we all have. You know the one. The voice that says “I’m not very good at sport” or “I’m not skinny enough, pretty enough, good enough…” The voice that often times is not very helpful.
It’s during these formative years that your children are doing most of their learning by observing the world around them, their parent and their siblings. This is the perfect opportunity to nurture a more beneficial belief system, one that is helpful rather than critical.
“How can I do that?”
By demonstrating self love and being a positive role model for your children. Self-love is important to living well. It influences the image you project into the world, the choices you make and how you cope with the problems in your life.
So what is self-love, then? Is it something you can buy, like a makeover or a new outfit? Can you get more of it by reading something inspirational? The short answer to these questions is No! Although they feel good and are gratifying, you can’t develop self-love through these types of activities.
Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good.
Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows by actions that benefit us. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept our weaknesses as well as our strengths, we have less need to explain away our short-comings, we demonstrate compassion for ourselves.
Some ways to cultivate more self love include being mindful (pay attention to your thoughts), act on your needs rather than your wants, practice good self-care (eat nutritious foods and exercise), set boundaries (don’t over extended yourself), forgive yourself (there are no failures; only lessons learned).
Julie is massage and complimentary healing therapist and clinic manager at Simply Natural Living in Tunstall Square, Doncaster East https://simplynaturalliving.com.au/